Simple Living: Holding On Too Tight
Yesterday I asked what you most valued?
Yesterday I asked what you most valued?
Conversations are often about WHAT we spend our money on – not what we DON’T. For instance, we talk about a recent purchase, a new shirt we bought, where we went out to eat, and the last steal of a deal we got. Rarely do we talk about where we haven’t spent our money! So…
What: Making Your House, Your Home Why: Why do you live in the house you do? Go back to the time when you were first looking at the home you currently live in. What thoughts went through your mind? Did you think about all that you could do to it? Where you could put everything?…
Mazy’s got it down. Anytime I give her something to color with, she immediately starts drawing in a circle. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to her circles, but then she glances up at me as if to say, “duh mom, it’s a puppy.” I should have known. It was staring me in…
The phone rings and you have to take a message. You try to find a piece of paper but nothing is in sight. So you end up taking a note on your son or daughters homework. After you hang up, you find all sorts of paper you could have used. Instead, now your child has…
When preparing your garden, obviously most of the focus is on the garden itself. Duh, right? What you may forget about is that your preparations prior to, will save you so much time in the end AND the beginning (of next year). One of the best ways to keep your garden organized year after year,…
Comparing ourselves to others and wanting what others have, has been a problem since the beginning of time. Wanting bigger and better, wanting the job our friend has, wanting to be in the same tax bracket as our neighbor…the list goes on. We ALL have something that we compare ourselves to others with. Some questions…
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Reading this makes me think about how people cope when if they loose all their posessions quickly (for example through something like a house-fire or hurricaine). It cant be easy to have to start again, but in some degree it must also be quite liberating.
We are seriously contemplating a move back to my home country of New Zealand (OH is a Brit and we currently live in the UK) in the not too distant future, and I find myself looking at things and asking myself if an item will come with us, if not why am I holding on to it. It makes it much easier for me to let stuff go.
Good to hear from you :)! How far out do you think you are from moving to N.Z.? I bet there is a lot of excitement in thinking about that – starting a new chapter and almost starting over with a lot of STUFF. Deciding whether to move something across the country probably really puts it in perspective. Keep me updated!
Thanks Kristin. Im hoping we will head out over the next couple of years. Ive been in the UK for 24 now and year to return 'home', OH was born and bred in the UK. Id go tomorrow if I could, but we have a lot of work ahead getting our house renovations finished so we can sell it for a decent price.
Sounds like you have a lot ahead of you and a lot to look forward to! Also, lots TO do. Take your time, enjoy every moment, because before you know it, you will say goodbye to the place you've lived for, for 24 years, with great anticipation for the future 🙂
Dealing with first my mother's stuff 16yrs ago, then my father's second wife's things 7 yrs ago (she had no other family), and now his things this past year has been a devastating thing for me to go through. I feel like I have had cloud over my head for years. And I keep finding things of theirs. My kids don't want most of it and there are some family heirlooms such as a functional platform rocker from about 1889. And we have my husband's mothers things to go through when she passes. Both of us are only children. It has made me look at a lot of things much differently. I don't want to leave a mess of stuff like I was left with for my children to go through what I have gone through. At least there's two of them but I'm pretty sure most of it will fall to my daughter. Please think about it. China, military stuff, memories of Hawaii, clothes, carpenter's tools, ammo reloading stuff, camping gear, tons of pictures, kitchen ware, cassettes, sports equipment, tons of paperwork to go through, bedding, even a mink stole from the 30s and the list goes on with so many memories. It has been overwhelming. Yard sales, donations, giving it to family…. Yes, there are different ways to handle it but I had to do it in the ways that worked for me. And guess what! It's still just stuff. Little by little, I'm whittling it down but in the end, it won't be a good memory of a lot of wasted years. I swear it has made me ADD. TOO MUCH STUFF.
Paulette, THANK YOU for sharing this! You are speaking from such a personal experience when it comes to dealing with other's stuff and how it can really impact a person. As I was reading this, I was trying to put myself in your shoes and Paulette, I just can't imagine. I would be so overwhelmed because like you said in the end, it's just stuff. So many memories – but no one can EVER take away those memories. The stuff yes, but not the memories. Hold onto those. Letting go is so difficult because it feels as if you are letting go of the past. But really, you are letting go of the stress of it. Keep going through everything as it will be worth it in the end Paulette! You can do it and thank you for giving us all a personal perspective of what it takes to go through everyone's things.