Learning To Let It Go
It was just a pair of pants.
I would say I have a perfectionist side to me. I like things done on time and done the right way. I like things to be just so. I like things organized and for things to have a place.
I like to take care of what we have, not only because I feel God has called us to be stewards over what He has given us (since everything really is a gift from above), but also because it’s just not that simple to go and by it brand new (at least not all of the time).
Mazy loves to play outside. We have designated “play” pants already because she is a scooter, not a crawler. That means the butt on many of her pants is wearing out.
Well, I remember one day being disappointed that a new pair of pants that she was wearing for the first time, got stained. I mean I tried EVERYTHING to get that stain out, but it just wasn’t happenin’. I was disappointed because first of all, it was brand new, but I was thinking that it would be a cute pair of pants to sell someday or give to someone else.
Then I realized:
A. It was a gift. I didn’t pay a dime for it.
B. The joy and fun Mazy had that day was irreplaceable.
C. It is just a material possession.
Let it go, Kristin. Let it go.
We had ordered one of those $.01 + shipping dog books off Amazon, and the day we received it, our daughter ripped the leg off one of the dogs. At first I was like “oh shoot, there goes a new book,” but then I realized it was already used and you know what? It’s JUST A BOOK!
Through blogging, I have been able to receive some pretty amazing gifts and free items. One of them, being a very high-quality pair of sheets. Well, one time I put them in the dryer and the top sheet must have gotten hooked on something because there was a hole in the sheets when I pulled them out.
Have you ever had that happen? You have something what you would deem as “nice” and all of a sudden it isn’t “nice” anymore? That taught me a lesson. No need to buy expensive things because even “nice” things can get destroyed. I had to let it go.
What material possession do you hang on too tightly to? The thing is, with material possessions, they can be destroyed in an instant. It just is not worth it to hang onto things too tightly and to get worked up over the little things. Like a pair a pants.
That day, I loved because Mazy taught me about the joys of life. Seeing her scooting around, despite what was happening to her clothes. She was exploring the outside world, soaking it in. A priceless moment.
A priceless moment that was worth the price of the pants.
And, it was just a pair of pants.
Hi Kristin,
I am just like you! I might even be a little "worse" as I am always saving things. FOR WHAT? "Can't use that tablecloth, it might get wrecked." "Can't use that set of dishes, one might get broken." Ah!
Now that I am older, I think, my gosh, when I die, my kid won't care about "this." (Whatever it is.) And it will probably end up in the trash or at Goodwill anyway!
I was always disappointed when something got ruined of my daughter's (who is 25) and even though I never scolded, I can imagine the attitude came through, even a little! So I applaud you for working on letting it go. Keep up the good work. The time goes so fast and it just doesn't matter in the end.
Thanks for your great blog!
Sincerely,
Donna Lanning
Thank you, Donna for your comment! What you said is so absolutely true. What ARE we saving things for? Like you said, FOR WHAT? Like you said, it just doesn't matter in the end and trust me, that is something I am still working on :). Probably after Mazy is out of the house I will think, "why did I care so much about that?" Live and learn, right? Thank you for your words, Donna! I appreciate it!